Are You Stuck in Indecision?

by Janet Cassidy

When we were contemplating the adoption of our youngest daughter (who was 9 at the time), we found ourselves trying to make a decision under the weight of hypothetical problems. What if this happens? What if that happens? We kept trying to figure out, “What IS God trying to tell us to do?”

A consultation with our pastor provided a handy tool which I still find useful today. He said, “Decide first if you want to parent this child. If you do, then you must be willing to accept whatever comes with that decision.”

Today, I alter his question in various ways, such as: “Do you want to follow Jesus? If so, then . . .”

Take these words and change them to aid you in decision-making. For instance, you might try:

“Decide first if you want this job . . . if you do, then . . .”

Or, for the weight conscious, “Decide first if you want to eat the whole pie . . .” J

Seriously, I have found that all of the “unknowns” on which I try to base my decisions simply slip away when I use this pattern. It leaves me with something tangible to work from.

Let me know if it works for you!

Janet Cassidy, columnist and freelance writer is author of Cassidy Comments, a biweekly e-letter. To subscribe, please send an email to with a subject of "subscribe."

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